{"id":11574,"date":"2018-01-06T08:29:00","date_gmt":"2018-01-06T13:29:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/?p=11574"},"modified":"2022-06-29T13:31:19","modified_gmt":"2022-06-29T17:31:19","slug":"new-year-goals-resolutions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/new-year-goals-resolutions\/","title":{"rendered":"How to make the most of the new year"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Happy New Year! Can you believe that some statistics say <strong>New Years Resolutions<\/strong> are ditched less than three weeks into the new year? Wow. I do think resolutions, in general, are outdated. I mean, what IS a resolution? It\u2019s merely the decision to do or not to do a particular thing. You just resolve to do or not to do. Seems simple enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The big problem with new years resolutions is the fact that most people set them based on what they think they SHOULD be doing (<em>make a mental note here of that word should<\/em>) and not necessarily what they WANT to be doing. Okay? Let that sink in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Want<\/em> is your motivation. <em>Should<\/em> is your downfall. So, maybe work on eliminating that word \u201c<em>should<\/em>\u201d from your vocabulary! Why do we think we <em>should<\/em> get a beach body? Well, because everywhere we look advertisers are telling us that <em>should<\/em> be our goal for summer! Hello? The word &#8220;should&#8221; actually undermines our ability to DO what is important to us. &#8220;Should&#8221; steals our follow through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>[Tweet &#8220;The word &#8220;should&#8221; actually undermines our ability to DO what is important to us. &#8220;Should&#8221; steals our follow through.&#8221;]<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Past-tense <em>should\u2019s<\/em> are even worse. &#8220;I <em>should<\/em> have eaten better yesterday,&#8221; ugh what a guilt trip you\u2019re giving yourself! Try using the words &#8220;<em>could<\/em>&#8221; or &#8220;<em>would like to<\/em>&#8221; instead: &#8220;I <em>could<\/em> have eaten better yesterday.&#8221; See how much better that sounds?!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here\u2019s a hot topic in our house right now. Tell me which statement you think your family members would be more responsive to:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>\u201cyou <em>should<\/em> clean that dirty bathroom\u201d or<\/li><li>\u201cyou know, if you <em>could<\/em> clean that dirty bathroom, I <em>would<\/em> appreciate it so much.\u201d<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Don\u2019t think I have this figured out guys, I\u2019m still working on it, but I\u2019m just giving you a healthy bite to think on. So swap your shoulds for coulds and woulds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img fetchpriority=\"low\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1325\"  src=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-3.jpg\" alt=\"How to make the most of the new year 1\" class=\"wp-image-11579\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-3-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-3-600x398.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-3-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-3-800x530.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-3-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-3-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-3.jpg 2000w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 2000px) 100vw, 2000px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">goals vs. resolutions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Okay, back to the <strong>New Years Resolutions<\/strong>. Are goals and resolutions the same thing? Do you think a goal feels more outcome focused? With a goal, it is the <em>result<\/em> you are looking for or the <em>reward<\/em> of your efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you prefer you can listen to this as in my podcast <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/realistic_tips_new_year\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener\">Realistic Tips for using the Momentum of a New Year<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>New Years <em>Goals<\/em> make more sense to <em>me<\/em> than New Year's <em>Resolutions<\/em> though similar. Either way, experts say that most <strong>goals and resolutions do not last<\/strong>. You see <strong>both can be a recipe for judging yourself<\/strong> (<em>and well, sometimes others<\/em>).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You know how it goes if you <em>resolve<\/em> to run every Saturday morning. Come mid-February you sleep through your run because you were super tired and just couldn\u2019t drag yourself out of bed; then you feel like an utter and complete failure because you had <em>resolved<\/em> to do the thing and now you haven\u2019t done it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let's say your <em>goal<\/em>&nbsp;this year is to improve your 13-minute mile to a 10-minute mile. Come December, you are still running an 11-minute mile; you <em>technically<\/em> didn\u2019t achieve your <em>goal<\/em>. Your goal distracted you from the fact that you improved your time by 2 minutes. The thing is whether it's resolutions or goals you\u2019re always looking toward some future \u201c<em>thing<\/em>\u201d rather than just <strong>focusing on what you are accomplishing right now<\/strong>. With a new mindset, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/new-years-eve-goodbye-2016-hello-2017\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener\">why wait<\/a>, you can start new goals in any month!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Take pride in the everyday accomplishments! Yes, I do think we benefit when we set goals, have vision boards, and strive to improve in the areas that are important to us. I just believe we can achieve more when we see our goals and resolutions more as <em>day to day good decision making<\/em>! <strong>See the year as an overall picture, a mural of your year. <\/strong>When you begin to see the big picture that's when you are working towards something <em>measurable.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img fetchpriority=\"low\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1333\"  src=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-2.jpg\" alt=\"How to make the most of the new year\" class=\"wp-image-11578\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-2-600x400.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-2-800x533.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-2-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-2-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-2.jpg 2000w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 2000px) 100vw, 2000px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>If you miss your Saturday morning run, it\u2019s not like the whole New Year\u2019s thing is a wash!&nbsp;&#8220;Well, I missed my run today, guess I\u2019ll try again next year!&#8221; Come on! But that\u2019s how so many of us are, right? I can slip into this pattern with my <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/orthorexia\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener\">eating plan<\/a>, and when I do, I have learned to see that as a red flag. <em>Time to reevaluate<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Look, I have a thing about fresh starts, I <em>love<\/em> New Years for the symbolic &#8220;<em>clean slate<\/em>&#8221; that it is. Just like <strong>I love Mondays<\/strong> because it\u2019s the start of a fresh new week; a chance to do better than last week. It's the chance to begin again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">decision fatigue can be the downfall of resolutions and goals<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The <em>key<\/em> to this whole thing is getting your mindset on making those resolutions and goals your everyday norm. To have <em>success<\/em> in making your <em>goals<\/em> into <em>habits<\/em> is that you don\u2019t want to have to make that decision every day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You know how frustrating it is to be in the car with someone who doesn\u2019t know where they want to eat, right? That kind of thing creates decision fatigue. So if you don\u2019t have to make the decision, then you save yourself time, energy, and the possibility of not doing the thing you need to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So how do you focus on achieving these things? Create <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/product\/31-habits\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener\">habits<\/a>. Why is it a habit? A habit is something you do without really thinking about it. I am in the habit of skipping the soda aisle; it doesn\u2019t occur to me, I don\u2019t have to decide, will I buy soda this week? No, I am in the habit of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/product\/step-one-quit-soda\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener\">drinking water<\/a> and therefore that decision is already made.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Same when I go out to eat, the server asks me what I would like to drink I don\u2019t have to think about it, water it is. I never order anything but water. I made this decision back in 2003, and I haven\u2019t wavered from it since then. I never order tea or soda. I order water. Decision made; done deal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So that\u2019s how I would like you to think about your <strong>goals and resolutions<\/strong>&nbsp;this year. Remembering the key is to make that idea a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/product\/31-habits\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener\">habit<\/a>; determine once and for all, then it is done. You don\u2019t have to wake up and wonder if you are going to the gym today; you <em>GO<\/em> to Yoga on Tuesdays at 9:30 every week. That\u2019s what you do. It\u2019s really simple when you think about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I read an article about former President Barack Obama. Being the president is a job filled with LOTS of decision making. He says that to pare down the number of decisions he had to make he chose to wear only grey or blue suits. The reason being that he didn't want to wear himself out with little choices, so he made that decision ahead of time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The concept illustrates why I <em>prefer to go grocery shopping in the morning<\/em> before <strong>decision fatigue<\/strong> has a chance to overwhelm me into making <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/healthy-people-pantry\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener\">poor choices<\/a> when it comes to food.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So that is how I deal with the new year, every year. I simply continue to build good, healthy habits and I re-evaluate them at New Year, but I also check in throughout the year.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-9d6595d7 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/product\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online\/\"><img fetchpriority=\"low\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"900\" height=\"900\"  src=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online.jpg\" alt=\"Pros and Cons Worksheet Printable (Editable Online)\" class=\"wp-image-22773\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online-80x80.jpg 80w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online-100x100.jpg 100w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online-500x500.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online-600x600.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online-800x800.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online.jpg 900w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 900px) 100vw, 900px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Use this handy dandy pros and cons worksheet to eliminate decision fatigue! Especially when it comes to major decisions, you want to put some thought into and work through the process methodically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-layout-flex wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link button\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/product\/pros-and-cons-worksheet-printable-editable-online\/\">Buy Now<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Alternatively, you can join the Healthologist Community where you get instant access to ALL my printables, worksheets, eBooks and Guides. Plus you can ask questions, continue the conversation, and meet other health nuts \ud83d\ude09 <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-layout-flex wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link button\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/healthologist-community-membership\/\">Healthologist Membership<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">just another day<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>I know many people say it is just another day, but it\u2019s NOT just another day! <strong>The new year is therapeutic<\/strong> for me, and I believe, for many others. So use the <em>momentum<\/em> of a new year to create your healthy habit, to make your once and for all decisions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If nothing else, a new year can be a time for reflection. <em>What worked last year, what didn\u2019t work, what can I do differently? What are my areas that need improvement? What are the things that I rocked this past year?<\/em> If you write down your \u201c<strong>goals<\/strong>\u201d for the new year, don\u2019t scrap them! Just make sure you are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/new-year-to-goal-or-not-to-goal-but-what-is-the-question\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener\">setting smart goals<\/a>. Look at them as habits you are working on creating. Not just in January, but all year, check in with your goals. Again at the end of the year you can just go back and look at them and see where you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft\"><img fetchpriority=\"low\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\"  src=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/the-basics-to-help-you-get-started-on-the-ketogenic-diet-3.png\" alt=\"The basics to help you get started on the ketogenic diet 4\" class=\"wp-image-10439\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Find books, tools, foods, and more help a healthy lifestyle on the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/recommended\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\">TOM Recommendations<\/a> page or shop <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/shop\/thatorganicmom\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"external\">ThatOrganicMom on Amazon<\/a>. Hover over the little chat box to read my notes on each product.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img fetchpriority=\"low\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\"  src=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year.png\" alt=\"How to make the most of the new year 4\" class=\"wp-image-11652\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-300x450.png 300w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-600x900.png 600w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year-683x1024.png 683w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/how-to-make-the-most-of-the-new-year.png 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Happy New Year! Can you believe that some statistics say New Years Resolutions are ditched less than three weeks into the new year? Wow. I do think resolutions, in general, are outdated. I mean, what IS a resolution? It\u2019s merely the decision to do or not to do a particular thing. 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