{"id":15920,"date":"2019-10-10T07:25:00","date_gmt":"2019-10-10T11:25:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/?p=15920"},"modified":"2022-06-29T12:29:54","modified_gmt":"2022-06-29T16:29:54","slug":"emotional-intelligence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/emotional-intelligence\/","title":{"rendered":"Raising Children Well: The Non-Obvious Guide to Emotional Intelligence"},"content":{"rendered":"<iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.blubrry.com\/?media_url=https%3A%2F%2Fmedia.blubrry.com%2Fa_healthy_bite%2Fcontent.blubrry.com%2Fa_healthy_bite%2FKerry_Goyette_Emotional_Intelligence_You_Can_Actually_Use.mp3&podcast_link=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.thatorganicmom.com%2Femotional-intelligence%2F\" scrolling=\"no\" width=\"100%\" height=\"165\" frameborder=\"0\" id=\"blubrryplayer-1\" class=\"blubrryplayer\" title=\"Blubrry Podcast Player\"><\/iframe><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_links_mp3\" style=\"margin-bottom: 1px !important;\">Podcast: <a href=\"https:\/\/media.blubrry.com\/a_healthy_bite\/content.blubrry.com\/a_healthy_bite\/Kerry_Goyette_Emotional_Intelligence_You_Can_Actually_Use.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_pinw\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Play in new window\" onclick=\"return powerpress_pinw('https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/?powerpress_pinw=15920-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Play in new window<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/media.blubrry.com\/a_healthy_bite\/content.blubrry.com\/a_healthy_bite\/Kerry_Goyette_Emotional_Intelligence_You_Can_Actually_Use.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_d\" title=\"Download\" rel=\"nofollow\" download=\"Kerry_Goyette_Emotional_Intelligence_You_Can_Actually_Use.mp3\">Download<\/a><\/p><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_subscribe_links\">Subscribe: <a href=\"https:\/\/itunes.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/a-healthy-bite\/id1203947950?mt=2&ls=1#episodeGuid=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.thatorganicmom.com%2F%3Fp%3D15920\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_itunes\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe on Apple Podcasts\" rel=\"nofollow\">Apple Podcasts<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/feed\/podcast\/\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_rss\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe via RSS\" rel=\"nofollow\">RSS<\/a><\/p>\n<p>According to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/basics\/emotional-intelligence\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener noreferrer\">Psychology Today<\/a>, &#8220;<strong>Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to identify and manage one\u2019s own emotions, as well as the emotions of others.&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>Emotional intelligence is generally said to include at least three skills:&nbsp;emotional awareness, or the ability to identify and name one\u2019s own emotions; the ability to harness those emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem&nbsp;solving; and the ability to manage emotions, which&nbsp;includes both regulating&nbsp;one\u2019s own emotions when necessary&nbsp;and helping others to do the same.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Teaching our children to be emotionally intelligent can only benefit them as they mature into adulthood.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Emotional Intelligence, or EQ is also referred to as social and emotional learning. There are many <strong>benefits of higher emotional intelligence<\/strong> such as:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Kids with higher EQ do <strong>better on tests and typically have higher grades.<\/strong><\/li><li>Children who display higher EQ tend to grow into adults who are <strong>more likely to graduate from college and enter the workforce<\/strong> by their mid-twenties.<\/li><li>People with high EQ are <strong>less likely to deal with mental illness<\/strong>.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Don't worry too much if it seems like your child has a low EQ; it develops over time. Practicing EQ skills can help our children develop these skills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How can Parents Raise Emotionally Intelligent Children?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Identify<\/strong> what they are <strong>feeling<\/strong> &#8211; it helps if parents can teach emotion words.<\/li><li><strong>Empathize<\/strong> with your child &#8211; express an understanding of what they are going through.<\/li><li><strong>Model<\/strong> Healthy Expressions of Emotions &#8211; Being expressive rather than shifting blame.<\/li><li><strong>Learn<\/strong> to be a Problem Solver &#8211; Coach your child rather than solve for them<\/li><li>Teach Children <strong>Coping Skills<\/strong> &#8211; expressing feelings, venting to parents, drawing their feelings, etc.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"alignleft\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Non-Obvious-Guide-Emotional-Intelligence\/dp\/1940858917\/ref=as_li_ss_il?crid=1XFNHG3DCH6N8&keywords=emotional+intelligence+you+can+actually+use&qid=1570474723&sprefix=emotional+intelligence+you+can+a,aps,154&sr=8-3&linkCode=li3&tag=that077-20&linkId=2bb7cff54af4a6a25d598e865401f52b&language=en_US\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><img fetchpriority=\"low\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\"  src=\"\/\/ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=1940858917&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=that077-20&language=en_US\" alt=\"\"\/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>People with higher emotional intelligence handle life with a more optimistic attitude and experience less burnout and stress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>We can't rescue our children from everything; that's why it is so important to teach them to problem-solve.<\/strong> Often, a parent's desire to solve every issue prevents us from seeing the child's need to learn problem-solving skills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Consequences are part of the growing-up process. Of course, it doesn't feel good at the moment, but <strong>allowing our children to develop these skills prepares them for adulthood<\/strong>. So, remember to <em>coach rather than solve the problem for kids<\/em>. Even though it's hard, don't <em>always<\/em> take away the natural consequences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">EQ on the decline<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Over the past three decades we can see that IQ is increasing (24 points); at the same time Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is declining. <strong>Raising emotionally intelligent children increases their self-confidence, performance in school, and deepens their social relationships and resilience<\/strong>. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">If emotional intelligence is such a key to a successful future, how can parents teach it to children? That's what we are talking about in this episode of A Healthy Bite with Kerry Goyette.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"alignright\"><img fetchpriority=\"low\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1072\"  src=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/kerry-goyette-emotional-intelligence.jpg\" alt=\"Kerry Goyette Emotional Intelligence\" class=\"wp-image-16246\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/kerry-goyette-emotional-intelligence-300x268.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/kerry-goyette-emotional-intelligence-600x536.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/kerry-goyette-emotional-intelligence-768x686.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/kerry-goyette-emotional-intelligence-800x715.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/kerry-goyette-emotional-intelligence-1024x915.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/kerry-goyette-emotional-intelligence.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"il\">Meet<\/span><strong><span class=\"il\"> Kerry<\/span>&nbsp;<span class=\"il\">Goyette<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>She is CEO & Founder of Aperio Consulting Group, Certified Professional Behavior Analyst and Certified Forensic Interviewer with postgraduate studies in psychometrics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Book:&nbsp;<\/strong><em><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/35fhxes\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener noreferrer\">The Non-Obvious Guide to Emotional Intelligence<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/em>Named among the&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/tcismith.pr-optout.com\/Tracking.aspx?Data=HHL%3d9%2c%3b088-%3eLCE58451%40%26SDG%3c90%3a.&RE=MC&RI=5842342&Preview=False&DistributionActionID=131375&Action=Follow+Link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=http:\/\/tcismith.pr-optout.com\/Tracking.aspx?Data%3DHHL%253d9%252c%253b088-%253eLCE58451%2540%2526SDG%253c90%253a.%26RE%3DMC%26RI%3D5842342%26Preview%3DFalse%26DistributionActionID%3D131375%26Action%3DFollow%2BLink&source=gmail&ust=1570561045118000&usg=AFQjCNFTFb9cVFUfWG96HWXRT4UaIaLX7Q\">Best Business Books For Summer 2019 by Forbes<\/a>&nbsp;and among&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/tcismith.pr-optout.com\/Tracking.aspx?Data=HHL%3d9%2c%3b088-%3eLCE58451%40%26SDG%3c90%3a.&RE=MC&RI=5842342&Preview=False&DistributionActionID=131374&Action=Follow+Link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" 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@<\/span><a class=\"_e75a791d-denali-editor-page-rtfLink\" href=\"http:\/\/tcismith.pr-optout.com\/Tracking.aspx?Data=HHL%3d9%2c%3b088-%3eLCE58451%40%26SDG%3c90%3a.&RE=MC&RI=5842342&Preview=False&DistributionActionID=131371&Action=Follow+Link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">AperioCG<\/span><\/a><u><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">,&nbsp;<\/span><\/u><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">&nbsp;and LinkedIn&nbsp;<\/span><a class=\"_e75a791d-denali-editor-page-rtfLink\" href=\"http:\/\/tcismith.pr-optout.com\/Tracking.aspx?Data=HHL%3d9%2c%3b088-%3eLCE58451%40%26SDG%3c90%3a.&RE=MC&RI=5842342&Preview=False&DistributionActionID=131370&Action=Follow+Link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">@aperio-business-consulting<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">&nbsp;and visit&nbsp;<\/span><a class=\"_e75a791d-denali-editor-page-rtfLink\" href=\"http:\/\/tcismith.pr-optout.com\/Tracking.aspx?Data=HHL%3d9%2c%3b088-%3eLCE58451%40%26SDG%3c90%3a.&RE=MC&RI=5842342&Preview=False&DistributionActionID=131369&Action=Follow+Link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">www.thinkaperio.com<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The <a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/7lhVUedc1a4\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"false noopener noreferrer\">Ted Talk I mentioned in this episode is found here<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Watch this episode:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/RT1RICvxois\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you can take the time to rate and review A Healthy Bite, it will help other parents see the podcast. Our mission is to empower families to live their healthiest life, mentally and physically. Leaving a review, comment, or sharing helps us reach our goals. Thank you for being part of what we do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><img fetchpriority=\"low\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\"  src=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/the-basics-to-help-you-get-started-on-the-ketogenic-diet-3.png\" alt=\"The basics to help you get started on the ketogenic diet 4\" class=\"wp-image-10439\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Save this post to your parenting board on Pinterest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img fetchpriority=\"low\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\"  src=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/raising-children-well-the-non-obvious-guide-to-emotional-intelligence-2.png\" alt=\"Raising Children Well: The Non-Obvious Guide to Emotional Intelligence 1\" class=\"wp-image-16261\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/raising-children-well-the-non-obvious-guide-to-emotional-intelligence-2-300x450.png 300w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/raising-children-well-the-non-obvious-guide-to-emotional-intelligence-2-600x900.png 600w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/raising-children-well-the-non-obvious-guide-to-emotional-intelligence-2-683x1024.png 683w, https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/raising-children-well-the-non-obvious-guide-to-emotional-intelligence-2.png 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>According to Psychology Today, &#8220;Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to identify and manage one\u2019s own emotions, as well as the emotions of others.&#8221; Emotional intelligence is generally said to include at least three skills:&nbsp;emotional awareness, or the ability to identify and name one\u2019s own emotions; the ability to harness those emotions and apply them &hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":21566,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"mai_trending":12,"mai_views":78,"mai_views_updated":1769286362,"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","wprm-recipe-roundup-name":"","wprm-recipe-roundup-description":"","_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1066,10,976],"tags":[440,7553,117],"class_list":{"2":"type-post","7":"category-interviews","8":"category-kids-and-parenting","9":"category-podcast","10":"tag-healthy-kids","11":"tag-mental-health","12":"tag-parenting","13":"entry"},"modified_by":"Rebecca Huff","acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15920","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15920"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15920\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":27772,"href":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15920\/revisions\/27772"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21566"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15920"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15920"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thatorganicmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15920"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}